tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3949711547542015501.post3080171510309478060..comments2023-12-19T00:21:32.286+00:00Comments on Post Modern Sleaze: Fuck me, shoeselectronic dollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15255101845615353600noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3949711547542015501.post-86024381100200835642010-02-16T16:25:49.193+00:002010-02-16T16:25:49.193+00:00Conatus,
You're right, I'm really not a h...Conatus,<br /><br />You're right, I'm really not a heels person. <br /><br />I want to unpick some of the words that you have used to give you a sense of where I'm coming from with this - and there will be more on the subject because I'm working with some other female writers on various pieces regarding identity and gender.<br /><br />femme / feminine is not the same things as woman. I am a woman, biologically and in terms of personal gender identity. <br /><br />Femininity or femme are masks I can put on, I am more or less feminine depending on my mood. Generally, I'm less. In my kink, particularly with the doll project (most people want girly-dolls or femme fetish dolls) I tend to be more. The appearance of gender is a sliding scale to be pushed backwards and forwards. You might want to take a look at Butler "Gender Trouble", that has some interesting ideas on the subject.<br /><br />You're right in that I don't feel a compelling social pressure to be feminine all the time, although there is a sense of proportion and appropriateness - I'd probably wear a dress and heels to a nice restaurant for a special occasion, for example. I do pay attention to how I look though, and how I come across. Obviously I want to look good, but I don't automatically equate "feminine" with "good". It's one way I can look good, certainly. There are others. I like being able to shift the way I appear.<br /><br />I never went through the heels as rite of passage. Possibly because my mother (also tall, also not especially interested in being "feminine") never wore heels and never really encouraged - or discouraged me - to do so.<br /><br />Heels are one item in my kinky tool box (toy box). Like collars the represent something specific and make me feel submissive. Wearing heels of this height is a little akin to predicament bondage, for example. <br /><br />How much of me is in the doll? I'm not sure, it's something I'm discovering as I go along. I'll think on it though.<br /><br />Thank you,electronic dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15255101845615353600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3949711547542015501.post-34321061664075202382010-02-16T12:37:48.910+00:002010-02-16T12:37:48.910+00:00I thought I'd make an observation of a comment...I thought I'd make an observation of a comment. Perhaps you may care to clarify.<br /><br />I surmise that you aren't a high heels kind of person. I also surmise that you don't accept the wholesale package of what most people put out there as being a 'femme' or [heteronormative] 'girly'. Which is cool.<br /><br />What I find interesting in you exploring with the heels in your dollification, is your reclassification of the social symbol of what high heels are. For you, heels seem to be a part of your doll play, and not your attempt to be in some sense part of a conformist notion of the feminine, which; in my observation of women (which is limited), seems to be some rite of passage or sign of identification with the icon of the conformist, girly, playful female archetype. <br /><br />Recapturing symbols is a sign of great defiance and originality. I wonder how much of 'you' is in the doll; whether there are distinctions between ED-self and doll-self, or if the latter is some realisation within the former. All psychologically very interesting. You'd be most interesting to profile. <br /><br /><br />As a side point, you mentioned in a past post how the high heel is shaped like a foot in the throws of orgasm, as a keen foot observer I never even considered that, and there is now such a fresh new eroticism to that. Perhaps it is perverse in that it is seen as such an obligation for women, one that causes pain. How profoundly observant you are in such everyday social symbols. <br /><br />Fond regards,<br />ConatusMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823503111603920289noreply@blogger.com